Dear John: I’ve had conversations about tipping with so many of my friends.
I am a notoriously good tipper, and I try to get my friends to do the same thing. I tell them that many servers have to tip out the bus people or prep people.
Just like you, I rarely get bad service, and if it is a food issue, it’s out of the server’s hands and beyond their control. I don’t punish them if my food isn’t cooked right. Kevin
Dear Kevin: You don’t have to convince anybody of anything. In life all you need to do is what seems right to you. Overtip if you can afford it. That extra dollar or two probably means a whole lot more to the person getting the tip than to the person giving it. Mangia, and don’t worry about others.
Dear John: Here is an experience I had with tipping a few months back.
We have a favorite restaurant that the wife and I like, and when figuring out the tip one night, for whatever reason, I did not take into account a discount that they had offered us for an anniversary dinner.
After arriving back home I took the receipt and looked at it one more time because I had a nagging feeling that something was not quite right. I realized that I tipped only on what they charged, not on what the actual value was if I had to pay without the discount.
I felt so bad that the next day I drove back to the restaurant with a handwritten note placed in a card which also contained the extra $8 I would normally have tipped along with an additional $20 for being a jerk.
When we next saw our server, she was just getting off her shift but insisted on staying on to take care of us because she never had a person do what I had done with the note. She told me that she has that note taped onto her dresser mirror, where she can look at it every day because it gives her such a warm feeling.
I just wanted to share this with you. George & Pam
Dear George and Pam: Nice job. You made a whole lot of waiters and waitresses feel more appreciated, even if they didn’t have…